3 Levels of Engagement

Coach Shea played both college baseball and basketball. He has coached high school athletes for over 40 years, including 30 years as the Bishop Connolly Boys Varsity Coach. Coach Shea has also coached and mentored thousands of players through various camps and clinics.

In this newsletter sports parents will learn the 3 Stages of Athletic Engagement and the BIG MISTAKE sports parents make!

 

The attitude and approach of an athlete is the single most important factor in their success as a competitive athlete. The correct attitude and approach allows players to overcome obstacles, deal with setbacks, and give themselves the best chance to be successful. The wrong attitude and approach often leads to frustration, confusion, and unhappiness.

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To properly assist their child’s development the sports parent need to gauge their child’s interest level. The #1 SPORTS PARENTING MISTAKE IS PUSHING KIDS TOO EARLY!!

 

INTEREST- The first step for most players is they become interested in the game. They enjoy playing the sport and play outside of organized competition and show a desire to improve. Some players never move out of the interest stage. In this stage parents should NOT push the player or require them to do anything they don’t want to do. That will lead to resentment and eventually quitting. Always remember sports is a RECREATIONAL activity!

 

COMMITMENT- This is the step where players decide they want to be a competitive athlete and are committed to do everything necessary to improve their skill level. They work on improving strength and conditioning, skill level, and IQ. They make sacrifices to pursue their goals. In this stage parents can push the player to a reasonable degree. The most effective method is to remind the player of their goals or ask if their goals have changed. A parent should NEVER FORCE a player to workout on their own.

 

OBSESSION- This is the stage where success is virtually guaranteed. When a player is obsessed they have total OWNERSHIP of their experience and are totally self-motivated. Obsessed players make no excuses and rarely miss workouts. If they miss a workout they double up the next day. They hold themselves accountable and honestly evaluate their process and are always seeking to get better. Congratulations if your child is in the obsession stage . Success is right around the corner!

 

Gauge your child’s interest level ( NOT YOUR INTEREST LEVEL) and tailor your support to that level. When you push a player before they are ready you will eventually lose them. The goal should be a SELF-MOTIVATED athlete who has ownership of their experience who pushes themselves to get better. When that occurs the magic happens!!

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